POWER OF EMOTION

           

 This is one of the greatest tools we humans can use to virtually change anything in our lives. Most people have the capability and ability to drive away their emotions; most people don't know emotions are the positive/negative signals of our experiences and great ways to utilize them for a better quality of life. Emotions are gifts from the creature of heaven and earth (God). We often don't appreciate our emotions; we get ourselves worked up over series of emotions that comes to us at some point in life. Emotions were created to drive us to change our present state or give us a better way of dealing any situation we find ourselves. So many people suffer from the delusion that emotions are entirely out of their control, that they are just something that spontaneously occurs in reaction to the events of their lives. Often we assume that emotions arise in response to what others do or say to us.

What's the element in these global beliefs?

It’s the misconception that we have no control over these mysterious words called EMOTIONS. Out of their need to avoid feeling certain emotions, people will often go to great, even ridiculous lengths. They will turn up to drugs, alcohol, gambling and overreacting. They will lapse into debilitating depression in order to avoid hurting loved one or been hurt by one. They have forgotten that there are ways to treat and use emotions to drive themselves into action of becoming who or what they want to become in life. I personally think emotion is not just a word; emotion is not just something we need to neglect or ignore just because of the pain it causes. Emotion is a tool for greatness, a well deserved power to virtually change anything in life.

LET ME SHARE WITH YOU SOME OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS WE GO THROUGH ON A DAILY BASIS AND THEIR USEFULNESS.

LONELINESS: Most times we often get lonely and all we do is complain simultaneously which will definitely lead to depression and maybe disappointment. We get controlled by some of our negative emotions, of which loveliness is only coming to you just because it needs to pass a message across to you. A message no human would tell you, a message that is worth sending across to you just to make sure you get off that boredom. Loneliness is nothing but a wake-up call to us all. Loneliness keeps coming to us so we can get this message In our head that we really need to cheer ourselves up and do things that will automatically vanish the loneliness away from us. Most people often misinterpret the word “LONELINESS” and this has made a lot of people go into wrong marriages/relationships. They compute all thoughts and come to a conclusion that they really need to be in a relationship or get married not knowing they are sending a wrong message to their brain.

Loneliness is one of our greatest gifts given to us by the creator. If you are lonely, that’s a signal for you to go out there. Maybe all you need is to see a movie, or maybe go out with some friends, maybe you need to make a call to one of your long term friend, or maybe it’s time for you to pick up some of the novels you bought and read them, or maybe all you need is to have a date with that special person in your life or maybe call your husband or wife for a long term discussion. We shouldn't conclude within us that loneliness is nothing but a bad thing; we shouldn't make ourselves vulnerable because we are always lonely. This is one of the emotions that drive us into another set of negative emotions and if we don’t bring out the best in it, it will definitely destroy us in no time.  

DISAPPOINTMENT: This emotion is for people who are not strong enough to make things happen with their inner abilities and life values. They mostly look up to people before taking massive action on what doesn’t even take much time for them to handle. Disappointment is nothing but a great message of how we can turn things around and come up with great strategies which will possible help us in our day to day activities. Disappointment has no meaning except the meaning we give to it at any moment in life. The meaning you give to it will automatically determine how you feel about any situation or event around you. We often go into a bad state whenever we get disappointed by people we never expected, we often feel “SAD” (a different negative emotion) and hurt when some people fail to meet up with our expectations.

Have we ever for once thought about why they couldn't make it up to us?

Have we ever thought of their own problems and been realistic when people we love or care about disappoint us?

Have we been talking to the wrong people or we are not sending our messages to them appropriately?

Are we considerate at all?

Do we have an unachievable standard which people can’t just no matter what meet up to?

Are we truly disappointed or just having mixed feelings?

These are the questions we need to keep asking ourselves when we find ourselves in a disappointment state in order to come up with a stunning answer that will steer us up and thus give us access into our inner powers. Disappointment often comes to us whenever we fail to apply good strategies in any situation we find ourselves.  Disappointment is like a signal that normally reminds us of our poor performance and ways of executing any plan in life. We often get ourselves to think about something negative whenever we feel disappointed and this always give way for SADNESS to flow into our veins. People, if you are feeling sad, terrible, depressed or peeved because our loved ones disappoint us in any area of our lives. That’s a wake-up call for us to understand the fact that we are not doing some things right, that we need to change some of our focuses, that we need to change our approach. If its about your relationship, then you need to think about something empowering to steer up your relationship. If your spouse or partner disappoint you in a way you least expect, I will advise you to ask yourself the questions I listed above and I can assure you of great and stunning answers which will automatically transform your disappointment to a positive emotion. If someone who promised to help you one way or the other disappointed you, then that’ the time for you to change your approach towards that person, or maybe you've been talking to the wrong person, or maybe that person doesn't have the ability to help you at that moment. We should always try to see the sunny side of our situations and we won’t overwork ourselves with negative emotions.

SADNESS: This is mostly caused by ourselves, the way we represent things to ourselves matter a lot and we often invite sadness into our lives unknowingly. Sadness Is nothing but a normal feeling like disappointment loneliness. We often fail to do things that make us happy, some people don’t even know how to be happy. I know some people will be asking themselves how on earth they can possibly do that, in fact some are saying if only they had the opportunity, they would have done that since it’s their greatest priority. After all, the purpose of life is to be happy. Well I am happy to say to you now that you can make yourself happy right here and right now. Most people create more ways for them to feel pain than to be happy unconsciously.   They are the kind of people that loves to wait for a particular event/time/someone for them to be happy. These are the set of people that structure their happiness on their marriages, relationships, love lives, business, goals and dreams. They structure their happiness on things they can’t control. They don’t know that if they structure their happiness on things they can’t control, they will continue to experience pain in life. In fact most people are the architect of their sadness but they tend to blame their misfortune or unhappiness on something else. Until you see yourself as the source of your sadness, you won’t be happy. That’s when you will work hard on how to produce excellent ways on how to make yourself happy. This emotion called sadness is what people avoid most in life. Most people do what they do out of their need to avoid pain and sadness. Why not look deep into that emotion and bring out the best in it.

Why are you feeling sad?

Are you really feeling sad?

What are the things you need to say to yourselves or experience for you to be sad?

How do you make yourself feel sad?

What does someone need to say to you that will make you go into a state of sadness?

Does that thing which makes you feel sad have a meaning or the meaning you give to it?

I need you to start asking yourself these questions whenever you feel terrible or sad. These are the questions that will unlock your inner potentials on how you can make yourself happy regardless of your present situation. These questions are like a tool of reviving your brain back to like and will make it produce more ways for you to be happy.

Brainstorm yourself and think of numerous ways of how you can make yourself happy regardless of your current situation. I mean ways that won’t hinder you from being happy, you can do that now if you really want to get out of that unresourceful state. You can make that difference now if you really want to, you can choose to make that decision now if you really want to. Create achievable ways for you to be happy than being sad and you will see life and emotions differently.

If you want to make your life really work; you must learn how to make your emotions work for you. You can't run from them, you can't delude yourself about what they mean, you can't run them out, you can't ignore or neglect them, and you just have to make them work for your life. Emotions are what I call ACTION SIGNAL. The emotions you once thought as negative are merely a call to action, realize that the emotion you are feeling at this very moment are a gift, a guideline, a support system and a call to action. You are the source of all your emotions and you are the one who creates them. So many people feel that they have to wait for certain experiences in order to feel the emotions that desire. They don't give themselves permission to feel loved or happy unless a particular set of experiences is met. Am here to tell you that you can feel any way you choose at any moment in time. 

Seat back while I share with you some steps to emotional mastery....
1. Identify what you are really feeling
2. Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions, knowing they support you
3. Get curious about the message this emotion is offering you
4. Get confident
5. Get certain you can handle this not only today but in future as well
6. Get excited, and take action......

Then let's see how on earth you won't understand the usefulness of emotions in your life....

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